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The Relationship Blueprint

I think of relationship as an invitation between two people to build a structure together, a building of sorts, which will become their relationship home. For this building to be a sound home for both people, it needs to feel …

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To Date or Not to Date

I’m 60 years old. I’m female by birth, and I’m fortunate that I have always felt okay with my gender from birth. I’m an introvert and I have the good fortune to live alone by choice and to be able …

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Insider/Outsider, US and Others

I sat in a supervision session the other day with one of my favourite people: one of my supervisees. K is a woman of 44 years of age, a passionate, dedicated medical doctor with so much integrity. She seeks supervision …

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Women’s Body Autonomy

All over the world right now, there’s a war raging. It’s a war over women’s right to body autonomy, bodily autonomy and bodily integrity. We don’t call it a war, but we should. Body autonomy Body autonomy, here, is used …

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Relationships – Mistakes, Ruptures and Repairs

Mistakes are to be expected in all relationships. It’s what we do about them that determines the course that a relationship will follow over time. This principle applies whether the rupture arises between any two people, or on the international …

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WOMEN – AGEING AND GETTING OLDER

“Look twenty years younger!” “Discover the Fountain of youth”. As we get older, women hear comments about themselves and other women that fall somewhere between “you don’t / she doesn’t look your/ her age!” (meaning, that’s a good thing), and …

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Entitlement

“S/he’s acting so entitled!” That expression has become commonplace today in many Western countries, usually referring to someone who acts and speaks in ways that suggest they expect special treatment, status, privilege, preference, and priority access to more resources than …

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Connection – What does it even mean?

Connection – what does it even mean? In our modern era, we are constantly told we are ‘always connected’.  We’re expected to be ‘always connected’, and to want to be that way. But what does that even mean? Thanks to …